2 things I absolutely LOVE... they are so damn unhealthy, and I try to stay away from them but I just cant... why are unhealthy foods so doggone satisfying??? They have no nutritional value what-so-ever... and you may or may not feel good hours after consumption... but i'll be damned if your carnal isnt satisfied and content... I guess Im upset that my eating preferences parallel my love life and dating habits....
Why do I love/attract/find/keep these men that are so bad for me? Its so funny to me. At first I wasnt the type of chick that attracted the good guys anyhow, so thugs were my only option. I dont mind thugs, in a sense I often prefer them... and that sucks. Most guys who openly claim to be thugs have nothing! Nothing of their own, no goals, ambition, or aspirations. No collateral, no future. They live for the day. The dope boys are able to provide this very temporary and false sense of security, but again, have no real future. Why do we want this? Most of the time they are utter assholes, and this is what we want... we as women like a certain degree of "dickheadism" in our mates.. dumb.
Plies vs Mos Def... guess whose gonna win...ugh.
I can break down exactly what I want in man... and its so damn contradictory, I guarantee you that his ass doesn't exist!
1.) as previously mentioned, I have to have a street smart somewhat "hard" type of guy simply because of my up bringing. But at the same time, he needs to have the utmost level of common sense, be book smart and able to hold an intelligent conversation with people of all backgrounds
2.) I need a man to have a witty sense of humor. He has to be able to make me laugh ... but not be a damn goofball that you cant turn off, not even at grandma's formal 88th birthday party... he has to know how to act. Have some class/tact... and some swag!
3.) Educated... in one way or another. He doesnt need a whole bunch of degrees, but he needs to have some form of knowledge about a few things. I tend to date older men that work all day everyday and have been for 20 some odd years, just because they dont have the BS that I have doesnt make them uneducated... 9 times outta 10 he's making way more money than I am anyway...
4.) He must be able to lead and take charge as the man of the house BUT let me raise my kids the way I want to raise them... he also needs to be a push over with girls... all of us... Be hard when its necessary and soft when needed.
5.) gotta have some level of sensitivity... but not be a puss... sorry but too much of that sissy crying ish turns me right the hell off... I dont need him pulling drive-bys... nor do I need him teaching ballet...
see what I mean... that makes absolutely no damn sense! Who is gonna do all that without trying... cuz if you have to try... I wont like you anymore! lol.
Anyhow, I do have a few good boys checking for me... but guess what!? I dont really want them. Nope. Im not interested in the sensible, easy route. I want to turn and left and deal with the pro-athlete that has NO IDEA what page of life he's on. Dealing with groupie love and real love and is just plain damn confused... or maybe the work horse with the crazy sex appeal but has absolutely NO TIME for you at all!!!! lol... this is dumb... but apparently not in my power... plus, I did give one sensible good guy a chance... the outcome is in my previous post! lol... I will enjoy the low life while I can!!
i just wanted to tell your crazy ass (i feel like i know you) that he actually does exist...i found him...just be smarter than i was with him and hold on tight.
ReplyDeleteSmart!? Not really my stron suit when it comes to men... but I know good advice when I hear, so if/when he comes all along... I will make a valient effort in his regard!
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